We need kink at pride because “kink” isn’t just kink. “Kink” is:
That boy wearing jeans that are too tight
Your neighbors and their “friend” that lives with them
Having a beard and wearing a skirt
Wearing any kind of choker
Literally anything else they decide goes against the “norm”, and it can be literally anything. That is why we need kink at pride.
No we don’t. Respect ppls boundaries. If respect isn’t normal anymore what will be normal then? Anything, no matter how it impacts or scars other peoples lives? Kink doesn’t belongs to pride.
Look around you. Do you see where “No Kink At Pride” has led? Being transgender is illegal now. Exactly what people said would happen. You know what’s going to be next? Being gay is going to be illegal. Because being gay is not “respecting straight people’s boundaries”. They don’t want to see you. They want to kill you.
In support of the OP, let me clue the reply poster in to some of how the worldview of conservative bigots works:
If you are trans you are a sex pervert
If you’re gay you’re a sex pervert.
If you’re the world’s most chaste and godly nun praying in a convent, who has a lesbian thought once while delirious from a fever, you are a sex pervert.
If you’re a family with a white picket fence house, a breadwinner, a stay-at-home parent, two cars, a dog, and whose politics are right wing… if you happen to be a same-sex couple, you’re sex perverts and probably pedophiles.
If you’re a closeted, self-hating, self-hurting, self-repressing queer going through every torturous form of conversion therapy, who condemns the other queers, who screams at the people who seek abortion help outside Planned Parenthood… you are a filthy, irredeemable sex pervert, a danger to children, and the most sympathy you deserve is transient pity if you admit to struggling.
There is nothing you can do, no behaviour you can engage in, no thought you can have, no clothes you can wear, no existence you can lead that is not an unacceptable sex perversion in the minds of these people. Your existence is kink, and you cannot appease them into thinking otherwise.
The bigoted conservative mind cannot conceive of queerness except as perversion, except as hedonistic degenerate thrill-seeking. They don’t know another reason to do any thing, except as an exercise of power over someone else. Their entire world revolves around this idea. Everything is power, everything is control.
Therefore you can never appease them. Your mere existence is to them a totalizing threat, to their worldview, to their sense of normalcy, to their positions of social power, to their patriarchy, to their holiness. The only thing you can do that will ever satisfy them is die.
Which leaves us with this:
Either we have solidarity with our queer siblings - yes including the ones you don’t understand, yes including the ones who have that weird sex that you think is fucked up, yes including the cringe annoying ones who “make the rest of us look bad,” yes including the fucked up problematic ones who need to change and make amends, but who deserve their human rights whether or not they ever do that.
Because to the bigot, to the conservative, you’re every bit as much of a pervert as Jenny Piss Kink and their polycule of submissive puppy-masked gender sluts. You throw your bricks when they come for Jenny, because when they come for the Piss Puppy Polycule, they’re coming for you too.
Some people say “no kink at pride” and they mean, don’t fist each other in public. Which is a thing thats never happened and that no one is advocating for.
Other people are saying “no kink at pride” and they mean no collars, no leather. Things that have always always been a core part of pride. If youre not okay with those things, go throw your own event instead of co-opting one of the ONLY fundamentally sex positive movements in the United States. Sex negativity isnt welcome at pride because pride and shame cannot co-exist.
